Hello lovely blogging friends!
I had a question, almost a survey of sorts for those of you who are in D/s relationships.
It’s about tasks (for lack of a better word).
Basically what I have been struggling with a lot lately in feeling the need to submit when apart from Sir and not having a way to do that (although truth be told I think just having some freaking patience is an exercise in submission all in itself!) haha
I mentioned in my last post that I didn’t think Sir and I were there yet (or if it will ever be a part of our dynamic due to me not being his primary D/s relationship, or he may not even have any interest in this kind of thing, I don’t know yet) regarding him setting tasks for me. By tasks I really just mean something for me to do for him so that I can feel as though I am submitting to him even when we are apart. I feel like this would be hugely comforting for me and ease some of the edginess I feel when more than a week or two goes by in-between dates. Being halfway through a 6 week (or more) period of absence due to crazy busy schedules and travel on both of our parts I am really really struggling with my submission and no where to place it!
I see many of your blogs where your blog in itself is a task set to you by your d-types, for some it is sending a text with specific content or a picture every day, or going to bed at a certain time, others have dietary or exercise rules or restrictions etc. etc. The list could go on. I am open to pretty much anything, provided it is something I can do without it interfering with my work or family. I don’t know if it would help me in these in-between times but I have to think it will. I know it is something I would like to experience.
My problem is this: I am too scared to ask. Part of me feels like if this was something he was interested in doing he would have brought it up already. (logic says we are still new and he may just not realize that I would be ok with that this early in the game). I also feel like it must be like, work for the Dom. I feel like I would be essentially asking him to put yet another thing on his plate by giving me a task and holding me accountable to it. I certainly do not, in any way, wish to become a chore for him. I shudder at the thought of that.
What are your thoughts, friends? I would love to hear the perspective of both s and D types on this if you have a moment. If this is something you have in your dynamic how did it come about? If not, have you talked about it? I am open to hearing other’s experiences 🙂
I kind of put the feelers out by just asking him what his opinion on setting tasks was so once I get a reply maybe that will clear things up a bit. But actually saying “hey I would love for you to add even more to your schedule and responsibilities by giving me some tasks and them holding me accountable to them.” I know communication is key, and this is definitely NOT a deal breaker type thing for me – we’ve had some great talks as you all know and are in a really good place. I just feel a bit…..lost when too long goes by and I have to keep my inner subbie locked in a box.
Thanks for letting me ramble, as always