Well, at least he is open to discussing things.
I think his interpretation of what I mean by “relationship” is different than the reality. He has a primary relationship, but so do I. I don’t want that.
I really just need to feel valued, cared about and like I matter. It doesn’t need to be deep romantic love, but affection, respect, and wanting to spend time in each other’s company (and not just playing) are my must haves.
I don’t want to just be just a kinky fuck buddy. I told him that today. I would be content to remain below what him and his primary have but need to be above a fuck buddy.
We have made plans to discuss more in person soon.
I don’t know what to think or feel at this point but at least, even if it ends, then there won’t be any what ifs hanging around.